God, the Lord of Glory, was the first in this universe to initiate human knowledge regarding marriage. What are the aims and objectives of this relationship?
In this regard, Allah Almighty said in the Holy Qur’an:
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought” (Al Rum – 21)
It should be noted that Allah Almighty has declared the relationship between husband and wife as the key to the treasure of peace.
It was learned that the real center of peace should be one’s own home where husband, wife, and children can see each other’s faces and feel the indescribable state of peace. But if there is no atmosphere of peace in the house and the house is decorated with bricks, stones, and only paintings, then it becomes a center of depression and not a house.
And then everyone tries unsuccessfully to escape in search of peace in hotels, clubs, travel, and other activities. Remember that anyone who can’t find peace in their home can’t live in any corner of the world. Here are some suggestions on how to strong the relationship between husband and wife. Some of them are related to women’s responsibilities and some are related to men’s responsibilities.
WOMEN’S RESPONSIBILITIES :
The wife should be sensible about the fact that when the husband returns home in the evening tired after spending all day in duty, he longs for a complete home. The house should be kept clean and all the household items should be cleaned and decorated in their proper place with manners. Before the husband returns home, the wife should finish all the household chores.
The wife must use all her abilities to please her husband, train her children and make her home a paradise. And that is the purpose of her life. A woman does not need any big equipment to make her home a paradise, but it is possible to do all this while living in the peak of poverty and starvation. And when the husband enters the house, she treats him with kindness and good manners. When he comes home and gets such a calm environment then he forgets the tiredness of the whole day. Let him breathe a sigh of relief. Ask for water etc.
Then ask how he spent his day? Remembering that spousal life is a trivial matter but in reality, it is the name of a long struggle, that affects generations. It is a saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): When a wife prays five times a day and fasts in Ramadan and protects her honor and dignity, she is allowed to enter Paradise through any gate she wants. In this hadith, the Prophet (peace be upon him) has mentioned four responsibilities of women :
- Performing obligatory prayers
- Obligation to pay fasts
- Protecting honor and dignity
- Obedience and submission to the husband
To be Thankful:
One of the important things women do in this regard is to be thankful. Allah Almighty has given them the nature of making great sacrifices. Therefore, after sacrificing or getting tired in the service, it is very important that she save their mind and their tongue with complaints while saving the reward.
Rather, give thanks for whatever Allah has given. And keep your home happy and peaceful by taking it as booty. Otherwise, timeless ingratitude is a spark that can set the whole house on fire. Therefore, thankfulness should be made a special routine.
The Holy Prophet instructed about the rights of the wife that whatever you eat, let feed his wife, whatever you wear also put on his wife, don’t hit him in the face and don’t even abuse at him.
One of the guidelines of the Holy Prophet regarding the rights of wives is this holistic approach that the temperament of women should be understood and expectations should be placed on them according to that temperament.
The wife has high hopes and expectations from her husband that my husband will take full responsibility for me and my children. That is why the wife needs encouragement.
That’s why she manages her home without worrying about the food, shelter, and other facilities at home. She often has in her mind that now I have no one in this world except my husband. She has high expectations from her husband. A woman naturally wants her husband to encourage and appreciate her in some way, so the husband should encourage her about clean food, work, nature, beauty, etc.
Treat your spouse well:
The Holy Prophet said:
“The best of you is the one who is kind to his family And I am the best of you all with my family He said that he should not have a strong temper at home or be a soldier but treat them well”.
And no matter how good someone is outside, but bad at home, he is bad in reality. Treat family members well, with the intention that it is also a part of worship and I am getting good from it for being kind. A husband should not impose any restrictions on the wife so that she cannot meet her parents
Help her with daily chores:
Sometimes a husband should take time out of his busy schedule to help his wife with household chores.
Help work with her, arrange the dishes, do the bed cleaning, or whatever you know you should do when your wife is busy in the kitchen. Take care of the wife’s work so that she can do her job with satisfaction. Appreciate what the wife does for the house, praise her, and thank her. From cooking to caring for children to decorating the house, be it homework, appreciate it. In this way, the home environment can be improved and all the moments of life can be pleasant.
Your compliments will boost her courage and she will work harder at home. So sometimes go shopping with your wife and help her choose clothes or something. Because every wife wants to wear what her husband likes. And of course, the choice of husband is important and she will get what you want.
It is a pity that men want to see a good atmosphere in their home but do not try to create this good atmosphere. such a husband creates a beautiful environment with his wife through his efforts. And he asks his family for food and clothing, cleanliness, and comfort, but he does not ask about prayer, he does not ask about the recitation of the Holy Quran.
He takes her shopping but no one takes her for the holy majlis. All the people in the house should create a collective atmosphere for only 10 minutes daily. If you teach a religious book, you will see amazing benefits at home INSHALLAH.
These are some suggestions which every husband and wife wants. And all married men can make their home a paradise in this world by being aware of all these principles