How to be an Amazing and Ideal Husband
Amazing and Ideal Husband
To make the house ideal, it is necessary to identify certain qualities of husband and wife which should be within an ideal couple to make married life prosperous.
It is also important to understand that the standard of ideality can be different for every woman. For example, if a woman has an addiction to wasteful spending on her personal needs, then she will consider the same person as an ideal for her, who fulfills all her legitimate and illegitimate needs.
But we cannot declare any such quality as an example. Ideal qualities may refer only to those qualities which show a man or woman to be moral, temperate, cheerful, and considerate of the legitimate needs of others.
One Quality of an Ideal Husband
One quality of an ideal husband is that he is generous, that is, he not only knows the legitimate needs of the house and wife but also does not act cheaply and stingily in fulfilling the needs. Just as a husband spends on his own needs, he should also spend on his wife’s needs. In Islamic teachings, spending on the legitimate needs of the wife has been declared as charity. This means that spending on a wife is not only a social necessity but also a source of reward by Allah Almighty.
It is the perfectly legal desire of a woman to wish that her husband should not let her realize that he does not spend on her as he spends on himself. The ideal husband should take his wife in confidence if for some reason he is not willing to spend money or time on her. One of the qualities of an ideal husband should also be that despite the division of housework and outside work between the husband and wife, the environment of the house should not be so strict that he never helps his wife with her housework.
Life of the Prophet of Allah (PBUH)
We also learn this lesson that if the wife is busy with some necessary work or if she lacks time, then the man should help her with her work. In this regard, the Prophet of Allah, (may Allah bless him and grant him peace), teaches the same lesson from his life. It is obvious that there were very few jobs for women in the houses of that time as compared to today, there were no small children in the house of that time and the wives were busy taking care of them. Rather, the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was busier than his wives.
Despite this, when the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to come home, he used to help the wives with their housework. The amazing and ideal husband should also have the quality of stability and independence in his behavior, he does not tend to change in everything like sometimes something and sometimes something, His personality is dignified, and because of this dignity, he should be respected outside because a woman feels the respect of her husband as her own. The most important characteristic of an ideal husband is that he knows how to take care of his wife’s happiness, let him know how to keep his wife happy and what thing makes her happy. And then give her importance in the house in such a way that she realizes that she is not a maid in the house who is brought to do the housework.
She wants him to be ready and patiently prepared for her just as she grooms herself for her husband. In the same way, both of them taking care of each other provides the foundation for the strength of the mutual relationship.
Story of a Women Came to Hazrat Umer To Complain about Her Husband
This can be inferred from an incident in history, A woman came to Hazrat Umar and said that she does not want to live with her husband. Hazrat Umar heard her complaint and assured to solve it and called her husband to understand the real problem. After a while a man came to him with dirty and scattered hair, his clothes were not clean, and he looked like a madman. Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) saw the man’s dress and understood why the woman did not want to live with him.
He ordered to arrange new clothes for the man, And also ordered that his hair should be straightened or corrected, after which he was asked to bathe and put on new clothes, then his wife was called again. When she came, Hazrat Umar made the man standing next to the woman. The woman was worried to see the person that Ameerul Mu’mineen was going to send a non-mahram with her. But when she saw her husband’s face carefully, she happily took his hand and started for home.
More Brief Qualities of an Ideal Husband in the Light of Hadith
A man who treats his wife well is the best husband.
Hazrat Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: The best of you is the one who is good to his family and friends. And I am the best of all of you to my family and friends. (Tirmizi)
Hazrat Ibn Abbas (RA) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “The best of you is the one who is good to his wives.”