Amazing and Ideal Husband
To make the house ideal, it is necessary to identify specific qualities of husband and wife within an ideal couple to make married life prosperous.
It is also essential to understand that the standard of ideality can be different for every woman. For example, suppose a woman has an addiction to extravagant spending on her personal needs. In that case, she will consider the same person ideal for her, who fulfils all her honest and unlawful conditions.
But we cannot declare any such quality as an example. Ideal qualities may refer only to those qualities which show a man or woman to be moral, temperate, cheerful, and considerate of the legitimate needs of others.
One Quality of an Ideal Husband
One quality of an ideal husband is that he is generous; that is, he not only knows the legitimate needs of the house and wife but also does not act cheaply and stingily in fulfilling the needs. Just as a husband spends on his own needs, he should also spend on his wife’s needs. In Islamic teachings, spending on the legitimate demands of the wife has been declared as charity. This means that spending on a wife is a social necessity and a source of reward by Allah Almighty.
It is the perfectly legal desire of a woman to wish that her husband should not let her realize that he does not spend on her as he spends on himself. The ideal husband should take his wife in confidence if, for some reason, he is not willing to spend money or time on her. One of the qualities of an ideal husband should also be that despite the division of housework and outside work between the husband and wife, the house environment should not be so strict that he never helps his wife with her housework.
Life of the Prophet of Allah (PBUH)
We also learn that if the wife is busy with some necessary work or lacks time, then the man should help her with her work. In this regard, the Prophet of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) teaches the same lesson from his life. It is obvious that there were very few jobs for women in the houses of that time as compared to today, there were no small children, and the wives were busy taking care of them. Instead, the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was more alive than his wives. Also Read:
Despite this, when the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to come home, he used to help the wives with their housework. The fantastic and ideal husband should also have the quality of stability and independence in his behaviour; he does not tend to change in everything like sometimes something and sometimes something, His personality is dignified, and because of this dignity, he should be respected outside because a woman feels the respect of her husband as her own. An ideal husband’s essential characteristic is knowing how to take care of his wife’s happiness; let him know how to keep his wife happy and what makes her happy. And then give her importance in the house so that she realizes she is not a maid who is brought to do the housework.
She wants him to be ready and patiently prepared for her, just as she grooms herself for her husband. In the same way, caring for each other provides the foundation for the strength of the mutual relationship.
Story of a Women Came to Hazrat Umer To Complain About Her Husband
This can be inferred from a historical incident; a woman came to Hazrat Umar and said she did not want to live with her husband. Hazrat Umar heard her complaint, assured her to solve it, and called her husband to understand the real problem. After a while, a man came to him with dirty and scattered hair, his clothes were not clean, and he looked like a madman. Hazrat Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) saw the man’s dress and understood why the woman did not want to live with him.
He ordered to arrange new clothes for the man And also ordered that his hair should be straightened or corrected, after which he was asked to bathe and put on new clothes, and then his wife was called again. Hazrat Umar made the man stand next to the woman when she came. The woman was worried to see the person that Ameerul Mu’mineen was going to send a non-mahram with her. But when she saw her husband’s face carefully, she happily took his hand and started for home.
More Brief Qualities of an Ideal Husband in the Light of Hadith
A man who treats his wife well is the best husband.